5-Week online Course

How to Help Your Child Calm and Regulate

Learn Practical Strategies that Help Your Child Manage Their Emotions

What would it mean for your family, if you could feel confident that the parenting practices you’re using will help you and your child calm more quickly and resist you less?

Would it mean that:

And while I’ve always been upfront about the fact that connected parenting creates lasting changes over time, I know that every single time you practice calming yourself and helping your child to calm, you improve your ability to stay calm in future during your kids’ outbursts, AND your kids are learning to calm themselves from your example.

Because I've Been There...

This is the story of the parenting challenges I was struggling with, with my sensitive spirited child, and how I turned the corner from feeling like I was failing, to finding strategies that helped me gain confidence to connect with and calm my child.

Why Your Child Has Meltdowns

You’re not a bad parent if your child has tantrums or out-of-control behaviour.

And your child is not a bad child if they’re aggressive or having uncontrolled outbursts.

It can be tempting to blame yourself or think you’re doing a poor job of parenting.

I remember feeling like a complete failure as a parent when all the other parents I’d talked with had strategies that worked for their kids’ tantrums—but nothing worked for mine. It seemed like it had to be my fault that they’d get that out of control.

And when I lost my patience, I worried I’d damaged him for life.

But here’s the truth.

When your child is out of control, it’s because the fight/flight part of their nervous system has been activated by something, and they don’t know how to de-activate it. (Many adults still struggle with this too, and if this is you, this course may help you as well.)

This “over-activation” is also called nervous system dysregulation, and can be caused by something as simple as a scratchy clothing tag, sensitivity to sounds, or frustration.

Over-activation happens to everyone sometimes, but it’s a much bigger deal for sensitive kids. They need your help. They need you to have some practical strategies for helping them calm their nervous system.

Learning about nervous system regulation is THE single most important thing that helped me learn to parent my sensitive child differently, and let go of the SHAME of feeling like a bad parent.

It gave me hope, and helped me learn new strategies.
And I’ve seen it help many parents since then.

You have nothing to feel guilty
or ashamed about.

Once we understand it’s the nervous system, we can take a different approach.

Learning how to soothe your child’s nervous system and your own is a beautiful lifelong gift you can give your child, that will affect their relationship with you and with all others into their future.

Parents, caregivers or teachers of sensitive children, this is for you if you:

  • Worry when your child has intense emotional outbursts
  • Wish you could do more to help your child learn to manage emotions
  • Feel frustrated with your child when they have an outburst
  • Feel as if you’re running out of ideas for how to help your child calm down.

Would you like some new strategies you can use to help your child learn how to manage their behaviour?

This 5-week course was created to help you address these challenges

Through our work together in this course, you'll:

In this course, you receive:

content

~4hr of recorded video or audio recordings that include explanations for why your child has tantrums, acts out, and practical strategies for how to manage outbursts.

A PDF document accompanying each video and audio, containing:

  • Class Notes, Reflections and Exercises to enhance personal learning
  • Practical Strategies and examples of games you can use to help calm your child's (and sometimes your) intense emotions.

resources & support

Weekly Enrichment Classes (2 time options) to ask questions about the content, and get help to apply your new knowledge and the strategies.

Personalized Guidance in the weekly classes for how to attune to your child and create strategies that fit their unique needs.

Enjoy the convenience of watching or listening to the content when it fits your schedule–maybe in the evening after kids are in bed, or while driving or making dinner.

Course Availability

For One Parent

The course costs: $160CAD

*See FAQ below – for this price, both parents have access to all content except Enrichment Calls

For Both Parents*

Cost for both parents*: $200CAD

*See FAQ below – this price is for both parents to attend full program, including Enrichment Calls

All prices are in Canadian dollars (CAD).
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Client Testimonials

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“I thoroughly enjoyed and benefited from Colleen’s Parenting workshop. It was so reassuring to have her expert guidance and appreciated her ability to adapt the material to each family’s unique situation. I found it immensely helpful to listen other parents’ stories and hear Colleen’s perspective because I know some of those situations will likely come up for us in the future. I feel more confident and prepared to navigate the teen years because of Colleen’s instruction.”

— Carmen Spagnola, Intuitive Coach at Sacred Made Simple

“Knowing why my daughter was having intense emotional reactions to things gave me the tools, strategies and language to help us both regulate so I could support her calmly and respectfully. I’ve been experimenting with Colleen’s tips, and I’ve noticed an immediate, positive effect on us both. I feel hopeful about our future and my ability to nurture my children in a way that honours their unique gifts, strengths and individuality.”

— Krista Bauer, Mom of two sweet and spirited babes

“I found the information and the course extremely helpful … Being able to calm myself first has been huge! I catch myself starting to ramp up with my daughter; then take a breath and restart. It has been a game changer for me. 8 months later, I still use the tools from the course I took from you all the time! That course was the first steps in me shifting the dynamic between my daughter & me. I will eternally be grateful.”

— Yohanna hestler, Intuitive Energy Healer & Massage Practitioner | Blueprint Numerologist

“I really enjoyed taking the “How to Teach Your Child to Calm and Self-Regulate” course. I gained lots of insight into what’s happening in my own nervous system and how that affects my response to my children. I also gained a deeper understanding of what is potentially going on with my kids in challenging times. I appreciated the sense of community and support I felt while taking the course. Colleen created a safe, compassionate space to share during the calls and gave valuable, helpful feedback and suggestions for supporting myself and my kids.”

— Katie M., Mom of 4yo and 10yo

Overview of Course

Each week, you’ll receive an email on Monday morning with:

  • Links to the video and audio recordings for that week, in which I’ll share new content and parenting practices (see topics and recording lengths below), 
  • Links to the accompanying PDF file(s) for that week, and
  • Dates, times and links to the Enrichment Calls in which you can ask questions about the content and/or your issues with your kids; I’ll help you to apply your new knowledge (You’ll have a choice of TWO weekly call options—for your scheduling convenience).

Each week you can print the PDF file for each lesson, add them to a binder or duo-tang, and by the end of the course, you’ll have a ~40 page Guidebook.

Weekly Topics

Week 1: recordings = 76min

Why Your Child is Having Tantrums or Aggressive Behaviour

  • What is self-regulation?
  • Co-regulation – definition, and why it’s vital to calming your child.
  • How to recognize what your child needs when they’re having a tantrum.
Week 2: recordings = 45 min

Identifying Your Own Triggers

  • Guided Imagery exercise to gain self-awareness
  • How to regain your calm after your kids have triggered you
Week 3: recordings = 55 min

Key tips for making the strategies work, and how to help your child with anger.

  • Explanations for how some parenting strategies “talk” directly to the nervous system to calm your child.
  • Anger – why it’s important; parenting approaches to help your child develop a healthy relationship with anger and avoid creating toxic shame.
Week 4: Recordings = 46 min

Practical applications

  • Strategies and games to try.
  • Understanding how the strategies work so that you can modify them to meet yours and your child’s individual needs.
Week 5: Recording = 32min

Practical Applications: How to keep the practices going when the course is over

  • Common challenges and what you can do about them.
  • What to do if the practices aren’t working.
  • Repairing and reconnecting after your parenting “mistakes”.
Zoë Fox

“I found your course really helpful at the beginning of my journey of discovery for my kids. I wish we all had access to this information when we had kids.”

— Zoë Fox, Support Worker for Autism & Neurodivergent Children

“I learned so much about the neuroscience behind healthy parenting when I attended this workshop. I learned about why you have to be in a good space in order to help your children. You can only share what you have, not what you don’t have— this is called co-regulation. Colleen shares a lot of material on the psychology of attachment parenting and her dedication to following the recent discoveries in neuroscience means that you are getting very current perspectives. I highly recommend this workshop.”

— Nomi Adamson, passionate mother (of 2 sons) and Mother Goose facilitator

FAQs

For the first 3 weeks, allow at least 2 – 2 1/2 hours for content, exercises and attending a 60-min Enrichment Class. Using the new practices with your kids won’t take much extra time, although you may want to set aside 5 minutes each morning to set a goal or intention for what you’ll focus on that day, and 5 minutes at the end of the day to reflect/journal on how it went. (Please see the above Weekly Topics section for length of video/audio recordings weekly.)

About 85% of the content is relevant to kids of all ages, and in fact, many parents tell me that their new knowledge helps in all of their relationships, including their partner relationship. 

Regarding strategies, there are a few more strategies that are appropriate for younger kids (under age 11). However, there’s a new 36min video added in 2022 with very specific strategies to use with teens and young adult children, plus opportunities to ask specific questions in Enrichment classes. 

Feedback from the Mom of a 13yo several months after she attended:  “I still use the tools from the course I took from you all the time! That course was the first steps in me shifting the dynamic between my daughter and I. I will be eternally grateful”

I encourage you to share the videos, recordings, and guidebook from this program with your partner and/or co-parent so you can be consistent in your approach with your children. If you’d both like to attend the full program (including the Enrichment Classes) so you can get the full experience of participating together, you can both register for $180CAD early price, or $200CAD regular price. There are a limited number of spots for the Enrichment Calls so that everyone can have time to share or ask a question if they wish.


After offering this program a few times now, I’ve discovered that it’s difficult to find a time that’s convenient for all parents to attend, given that people have varying schedules for work, kids’ bedtimes, sports and family activities. The current format offers the convenience of listening to content when you have childcare available, and the benefit of still coming together in community to share experiences, ask questions, and feel not-so-alone with your challenges (e.g., “Thank goodness I’m not the ONLY one struggling with this!”)

Yes, you can email your question to me (with as much detail as possible) or add it to the google document I provide, and I’ll answer it on the call. You’ll be able to listen to the answer on the recording.

Yes. I welcome your participation in all calls.

All situations are different, however, most parents that I work with notice some changes very quickly once they’ve learned some new strategies for responding to their child, and they often feel a stronger connection and less resistance from their child almost immediately. Having said that, all kids and parents are different, and it depends somewhat on how old your child is and your past experiences. Also, the process for your child to learn to regulate emotions independently is something that happens over the longer term, and the practices you’ll learn in the course will be used by you over time to help support your child to learn this independence.

Yes. If you aren’t satisfied with the course, you can get a full refund.

If you have more questions, please email me at colleen@colleenadrian.com

about colleen adrian

Why learn from me?

I’m a parent mentor, speaker and author (Freeing Your Child from Self-Criticism and Perfectionism, 2018). I’ve been researching, writing and teaching workshops about parenting for over 10 years now. I changed careers after having my son. Prior to this, I practiced clinical nursing and taught nursing at the university and college for over 20 years. I have a Master of Nursing degree (and several other trainings that you can read about here).

Like many parents, I really wanted to parent my child differently, but despite taking courses and reading a lot of books, I often found calming my child wasn’t as easy as it seemed in the books. Sometimes I felt frustrated; other times when I fell into an old pattern of yelling. I felt despairing and like a failure, worrying that I’d damaged my son for life. But this was also my motivation to dig deeper for answers.

When I learned about nervous system regulation and how it impacts behaviour, it was a gamechanger for me as a parent, and also for the parents whom I work with and teach. I no longer had to try to convince myself I *shouldn’t* feel ashamed, I “got” why parents and kids both “lose it” sometimes, and more importantly, I figured out what we could do to change the patterns.

ALL out-of-control behaviour stems from difficulty with nervous system regulation

Using strategies that focus on this is the key to helping kids manage emotions for the rest of their lives. This is true for all people, but it’s especially vital if you have some trauma in your own background.

Nervous system regulation and Dr. Stephen Porges’ polyvagal theory are the keys to helping you and your child have success with managing emotions in your everyday life, complete with all of its stresses. And you don’t have to spend a lot of time learning the science. I’ve done the research, broken it down, and learned how to apply it to practical strategies.

If this course sounds like a good fit for you, I invite you to join me, receive the distilled information I have to share, and bring your stories and challenges for discussion and creation of strategies that fit your unique needs.

Join us now!

We start October 24, 2022, and I can't wait to meet you!