This package is designed for you if you’re seeking:
- To be the calm parent who can hold your child’s or teen’s big feelings,
- Less yelling, anxiety and fighting; more peaceful, loving moments,
- To enjoy parenting and the connection you have with your child.
Many parents who struggle with getting easily triggered aren’t aware that you need to work on building your capacity to make more permanent changes in your ability to stay calm. The secret to building a lasting ability to be less reactive is to train your nervous system to stay calmer in the face of triggers (big emotions)–not to get rid of triggers. That’s impossible.
It’s like going swimming in cold water. You dip your toes in first, then as you get used to the temperature, you’re able to tolerate inching in a bit further until you’re all the way in. It’s the same with getting used to our uncomfortable emotions and how they feel in our body. You can build your capacity to stay present with them.
Learning to track your sensations and stay more grounded and present in your body is a skill that strengthens over time with practice, and having someone who’s regulated present with you as you practice–especially at the beginning– can help you level up your capacity and your ability to stay calmer.
I’m really passionate about helping parents make this type of change, because when they work on changing at the somatic level, so many other challenges start to become easier (e.g., setting limits, getting your child to calm and/or cooperate, setting boundaries). That’s because you’re more present in your body–you can feel it when you need to set a boundary. Less thinking, more just knowing.
What’s more, as you practice and improve your ability to stay calm, your kids learn from your example. The changes often result in a more peaceful parent-child relationship and home environment in general.
These sessions help you to learn the skill of tracking your sensations; the changes in your ability to stay calm with your kids begin to happen as you practice them over time.
“I really appreciate the way Colleen held a gentle space for me to share my specific parenting challenges. I felt heard and empathized with, and she taught me how to track my body’s sensations to a recent triggering event. Feeling my feelings can sometimes feel very boring and painful, so it was really helpful to have Colleen hold this space for me. She was very gentle and respectful in checking in with me and I was so, so happy to finally feel this last layer of feeling sunshine joy, which I haven’t felt in quite a while. Being able to unwind my painful feelings to reconnect with my joy again gives me this reassurance that I can stay with my painful triggers during similar parenting challenges and get back to this joyful state again. I highly recommend Colleen’s private coaching for fellow parents who understand the importance of feeling their feelings, especially during emotionally charged situations, so they can stay grounded and be empathetic for their children”.
~Bingz Huang, Mom of 3 boys, Singapore