Staying Connected to your Rebellious Teen

Rebellious teen

I’ve commonly heard parents say that they “dread” the teen years–anticipating rebellion, risky behaviour, and a host of other big energies and emotions. Connecting to your rebellious teen takes new skills, especially if you grew up in an authoritarian home, have past trauma, or were a rebellious teen yourself. I looked forward to parenting a …

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Teaching Your Child Authentic Respect

Is authentic respect from your child “deserved” or “earned”? (And by “authentic” respect, I mean respect that they offer genuinely, without being asked.) I believe that it’s neither deserved or earned, and that both of those beliefs can get in the way of teaching your child authentic respect. Many parents feel (understandably) upset when their …

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Your Child’s Ability to Behave is Reliant on Their Ability to Regulate Emotions

your child's ability to behave is reliant on their ability to regulate emotions

Sometimes we lament: “I’ve told my child a hundred times? Why don’t they learn?” The problem usually lies with an old outdated belief that we’re completely unaware of. Outdated (false) belief:   Once you’ve “taught” your child appropriate behaviour by telling them what they should do, they now “know” it and can use the information …

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Helping Your Sensitive Child Connect with the Teacher

When my son was young, I started the school year every year with a letter to the teacher. The intention was to help my sensitive child connect with the teacher early on, plus ensure that he’d have the support he needed for any challenges. In hindsight, I think it helped even more than I realized …

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When Your Child Won’t Admit They’re Wrong, It’s a Sign of Shame

If your sensitive or perfectionist child won’t admit they’re wrong despite evidence, it’s a sign of shame. Here’s what you can do to change the pattern. Instead of focusing on getting them to admit they’re wrong, focus on their feelings and experience. Often when a child is wrong, they realize it during your discussion–especially if …

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Your Spirited Teen Won’t Listen: Tips to Help Keep Them Safe

When your spirited teen won’t listen and you know they’re going to do what they want anyways, use these tips to help keep them safe. Sometimes you just know in your gut that even though you’ve explained the risks to your teen and told them you don’t want them to do something, they’re going to …

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My Teen Won’t Listen to Me: What Can I Do?

When your teen won’t listen, anxiety can skyrocket. Just when your teen gets to the age where they decide to take more risks –they’re also reluctant to listen. And the reality is, they often find ways to do what they want regardless of what you say. However– You can often gain the privilege of being …

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