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How to Prevent After-School Restraint Collapse

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Parents of highly sensitive kids can prevent or reduce after-school restraint collapse, not just deal with it after school. And in the process, the kids will also learn emotional regulation and skills for meeting their needs.

Do Rewards Change Behavior in Sensitive Spirited Kids?

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Do rewards change behavior in sensitive spirited kids? Not usually, or not for long. And here’s why. I often hear from parents, “Rewards worked for a while, and then they stopped working.” Parents are often understandably at their wit’s end when that happens. If even one of your children is dysregulated, that can contribute to …

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A Habit That Damages Your Child’s Confidence

This parenting practice damages your child’s confidence, even though it seems helpful and supportive at first glance. In this video, I share one of the parenting practices that’s potentially most damaging, partly because it’s so subtle and seems like “good parenting”. I share a story from my own parenting experience–and just to put it in …

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A Little More Irritable Over the Holidays? Here’s Some Inspiration

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A little more irritable over the holidays?  Today I have a short note that I hope inspires you, especially if you find that the holiday season tries your patience. (You’ll need to read right to the end for the inspiration). It’s a busy time of year for many, and a time when parents sometimes have …

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How to stop overreacting to your child

When the reaction happens so quickly that you can’t stop yourself–it’s an implicit memory that’s running the show in your nervous system.

Peaceful Parenting: Truths and Misconceptions

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Like many parents, having a child was life changing for me, and I aspired to use a peaceful parenting approach. I felt deeply blessed and wanted to honor that by connecting with my child and preventing emotionally wounding him. I had my own childhood wounds, and I was determined to have a close relationship with …

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A Key to Conscious Parenting

We know from the conscious parenting literature, including that of Dr. Shefali Tsabary, that our children arrive in this world as unique individuals with their unique life path. If we pay attention to the triggers they prompt in us and focus on healing our own past wounds, we’ll learn important transformative life lessons from them …

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What to Say to Your Kids to Build Empathy and Confidence

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Many of the words that were considered acceptable for describing kids’ behavior in the 1970s and ’80s are now recognized as judgmental or damaging to self-esteem. They teach our kids to be hard on themselves and cause anxiety rather than confidence.  If we want to raise empathetic kids who remain open-hearted, we need to be …

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