Are you with me in wondering how you’ll get through the holiday season with a pandemic going on? Between having everyone home every day, limited ability to socialize with others, cancelled festivities, and no holiday gatherings with family and friends–it’ll be different for sure, and maybe even daunting in some moments. Whether you have active …
I want to talk today about the length of time it can take to make changes when you’re first learning how to use connected parenting strategies–especially if you grew up in an authoritarian household, or you had a lot of disconnection or maybe trauma in your family background. Maybe you look around sometimes and compare …
Children and teens may tell lies for lots of reasons. When kids are little, they’re often exploring the boundary between reality and fantasy. But intentional lies are different. And if you think about it, adults lie sometimes too and we often justify it.
If your child or teen’s behaviour is unusual or more difficult recently as school is starting, instead of worrying about their behaviour, look for how the structures that usually keep them feeling safe have been disrupted. The new school year can be fraught with anxiety-producing situations for all kids, especially our sensitive kids. But this …
When you raise your sensitive, spirited child to march to the beat of their own drum, be prepared that their drum rhythm will likely sometimes stretch you to outside of your comfort zone (and maybe even cause you anxiety). I’ve had glimpses of this experience throughout raising my son, but the waves of anxiety got …
We often aim to help our kids feel happy, and there’s nothing wrong with wanting that. However, if we want to raise heart-centered empathic human beings, we need to aim for helping them FEEL—all feelings—happiness, sadness, anger, grief, all of them—not only happiness. The ability to feel is what makes children and all humans capable …
Some of my most despairing parenting moments have been when I yelled, blamed, or criticized my son, and then felt like a complete failure when his face fell, or his shoulders slumped as he realized he didn’t live up to my expectations. I felt crushed, thinking that I might have done irreparable damage. It’s painful …
I hear lots of parents talking about how their kids are resisting “home schooling” right now in this pandemic situation. Some parents are frustrated; other are worried or distraught. Some are completely at the end of their rope. I get it. You’re not alone. I have a few thoughts that will hopefully set your mind …
Dear Parents: During this time of stress and change, please care for yourselves well so that your children can feel “calm” and “safety” exuding from you. ♡ With all the changes in our daily lives because of the coronavirus, and many parents finding themselves at home with kids—either trying to work with kids around, or …
It’s always the parent’s (or teacher’s) job to take responsibility for creating connection with a child; it’s never the child’s responsibility to initiate connection. I see this get turned around sometimes, when parents or teachers use a child’s behaviour to justify their own disconnecting actions. For instance, a child speaks “rudely” to the parent or …