Helping Your Sensitive Child Connect with the Teacher

When my son was young, I started the school year every year with a letter to the teacher. The intention was to help my sensitive child connect with the teacher early on, plus ensure that he’d have the support he needed for any challenges. In hindsight, I think it helped even more than I realized …

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When Your Child Won’t Admit They’re Wrong, It’s a Sign of Shame

If your sensitive or perfectionist child won’t admit they’re wrong despite evidence, it’s a sign of shame. Here’s what you can do to change the pattern. Instead of focusing on getting them to admit they’re wrong, focus on their feelings and experience. Often when a child is wrong, they realize it during your discussion–especially if …

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Your Spirited Teen Won’t Listen: Tips to Help Keep Them Safe

When your spirited teen won’t listen and you know they’re going to do what they want anyways, use these tips to help keep them safe. Sometimes you just know in your gut that even though you’ve explained the risks to your teen and told them you don’t want them to do something, they’re going to …

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My Teen Won’t Listen to Me: What Can I Do?

When your teen won’t listen, anxiety can skyrocket. Just when your teen gets to the age where they decide to take more risks –they’re also reluctant to listen. And the reality is, they often find ways to do what they want regardless of what you say. However– You can often gain the privilege of being …

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Teaching Boundaries is Essential for Your Child’s Safety

(Recovering) perfectionist parents may have difficulty teaching their kids to set boundaries because of their own tendency to people-please. But teaching boundaries is essential for your child’s safety, so that they gain the confidence to say, “No”. An important strategy you can use, starting when your child is very young, is to say “no” on …

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You’re Not a Bad Parent When Your Child Behaves Inappropriately

When your child behaves inappropriately, it’s easy to go straight to the thought, “They’re behaving like this because I’ve failed them. I’m a bad parent.” But you haven’t. This fear is especially common for (recovering) perfectionist parents, and can stop us from helping our kids improve their behavior and confidence. The tendency to feel like …

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Connect First with Your Kids, Before Changing Behaviour

Even once we know it’s best to connect first with our kids before focusing on behaviour, we still often focus on behaviour first. How can we change that? It’s important to remember that we’re in the midst of a societal paradigm shift—and paradigm shifts take time. Many parents are trying to put their parent child …

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How to Raise Authentic Kids

The work of raising authentic kids is one of the greatest contributions we make to the world in which we live. When I became a parent, one of the most important things to me was that my son would have the confidence and self-awareness to be himself—his most authentic self. The goal of being authentic …

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