New Parenting Book

If it were easy to identify our own self-criticism and prevent passing it on to our children, we’d have already done it.

It’s deeply troubling to watch our kids judge themselves, or copy their peers because they’re not self-confident enough to be themselves—while often not even noticing their own gifts.

freeing your child from self-criticism and perfectionism book
for parents of children of all ages— preschool through adult
this book is for you ...

If your child:

  • Criticizes herself or her creations
  • Criticizes others
  • Becomes easily anxious
  • Becomes easily discouraged when trying new activities
  • Feels reluctant to try new activities
  • Copies her peers rather than acting on her own desires or gifts
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Freeing Your Child From Self-Criticism and Perfectionism provides you with practices you can start using now, to help your children of any age begin transforming their self-criticism into self-confidence.

This book identifies some of the insidious parenting habits that perpetuate the cycle of self-criticism from generation to generation. It helps you gain insight to how and why it’s so hard to change, and offers you practices that begin to turn your child’s self-criticism (and your own) around.

Freeing Your Child From Self-Criticism and Perfectionism

For parents of children of all ages— preschool through adult

$14.97

+ tax & shipping

Instant Access for $7

freeing your child from self-criticism and perfectionism book

Paperback or Digital pdf: 80 pages
Language: English
Product Dimensions: 6 X 9”
ISBN Paperback: 978-1-7753453-0-5
ISBN Digital: 978-1-7753453-1-2

"A must-read for all parents! Colleen powerfully yet gently guides us as parents to become role models for our children by learning to observe and listen to the wisdom of our bodies and feelings. Rather than trying to be the "perfect" parent and do the “right” thing as guided by our heads, she shows us how to lead our children by tuning in to our hearts. Profoundly helpful for anyone struggling with a sensitive or self-critical child."

—Josea Tamira Crossley, Craniosacral & Somatic Therapist

“Colleen has tackled some very important issues in a kind, supportive way. This book provides practical tools that parents, caregivers and teachers can use to understand themselves better. Rather than focusing on controlling themselves and their children, they learn to be gentle with themselves.”

—Florence, homeschooling Mom of 2 teenagers

“I truly enjoyed reading your book. It…adds fresh insight into the next phase of my own parenting journey. 'Families carry generational traits and until they’re shifted, the cycle continues.' This book will benefit those who wish to break these cycles, including parents and grandparents/other caregivers who understand the importance of raising mentally healthy children.”

—Pamela Sylvan, Mom and Mojo Empowerment Mentor

Chapter Highlights:

  • The social and cultural factors that create perfectionism
  • The hallmarks of perfectionism and the beliefs that perpetuate perfectionism
  • A model for understanding how and why the perfectionistic tendencies you (the caregiver) have, will always show up in your child, and always dampen your ability to live your life to your full potential, until you gain some insight to where to make changes.
  • How being disconnected from your feelings relates to developing perfectionistic habits.
  • The instances in which helping your child is truly helpful for him, and when it’s crossing a boundary and undermining his confidence and spontaneity.
  • The specific “normal” things we all say in everyday life, that slowly build our children’s Inner Critic and lead them to be harshly critical of themselves.
  • How you determine whether requiring obedience serves your child well in his long-term development of self-mastery and resilience, or whether it cultivates feelings of powerlessness and a tendency toward victimhood.
  • The two common behavioural patterns that are huge barriers to being able to use these practices to change your parenting and free yourself and your child from self-criticism.
about the author

Colleen Adrian, MN, is a professional writer, speaker, and mentor who specializes in helping parents learn practices to transform their children’s self-criticism into self-confidence.

She’s passionate about discovering practices for supporting children to have the courage to be themselves and express their unique gifts rather than conforming to social pressures. She researches and synthesizes material from various disciplines including psychology, neurophysiology, spirituality, trauma literature1, and the 8 shields model2, to create fresh new perspectives. She provides one-on-one mentoring for parents and shares free parenting tips on her blog.

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Freeing Your Child From Self-Criticism and Perfectionism

For parents of children of all ages— preschool through adult

$14.97

+ tax & shipping

Instant Access for $7

freeing your child from self-criticism and perfectionism book

Paperback or Digital pdf: 80 pages
Language: English
Product Dimensions: 6 X 9”
ISBN Paperback: 978-1-7753453-0-5
ISBN Digital: 978-1-7753453-1-2

1Trauma literature includes the work of Dr. Peter Levine (see https://traumahealing.org); Dr. Stephen Porges (See http://stephenporges.com/); Dr. Diane Poole Heller (https://dianepooleheller.com).
2A global movement to create nature connection, community and cultural repair (http://8shields.org).