Many people believe that connected parenting spoils a child, and that they end up being poorly behaved or unable to tolerate having limits set by parents and teachers. I especially hear this from the older generation, who are watching some of the younger generation parents try to learn connected parenting. They see the kids “running …
You can watch the video here, or read the transcript below Today I want to talk with you about one of the ways that you can raise a confident child, and this is especially true if they have anxiety. We often think (subconsciously) that we can help our children become more confident if we help …
How can you help your anxious child gain confidence when they’re reluctant or refusing to do something? Is it possible to build their confidence by pushing them to do it? Or do you empathize and let them off the hook so you don’t ramp up their anxiety? Some current literature suggests that if you let …
Is authentic respect from your child “deserved” or “earned”? (And by “authentic” respect, I mean respect that they offer genuinely, without being asked.) I believe that it’s neither deserved or earned, and that both of those beliefs can get in the way of teaching your child authentic respect. Many parents feel (understandably) upset when their …
Sometimes we lament: “I’ve told my child a hundred times? Why don’t they learn?” The problem usually lies with an old outdated belief that we’re completely unaware of. Outdated (false) belief: Once you’ve “taught” your child appropriate behaviour by telling them what they should do, they now “know” it and can use the information …
When my son was young, I started the school year every year with a letter to the teacher. The intention was for helping my sensitive child connect with the teacher early on, plus ensure that he’d have the support he needed for any challenges. In hindsight, I think it helped even more than I realized …
When parenting a teen, I was prepared for rebellion, conflict and conversations about deep topics that we didn’t always agree on–but not grief. In fact, I was completely unprepared for the grief. When your teen gets to the stage of insisting that they can make their own decisions, I think that some parents believe it’s …
When your teen won’t listen, anxiety can skyrocket. Just when your teen gets to the age where they decide to take more risks –they’re also reluctant to listen. And the reality is, they often find ways to do what they want regardless of what you say. However– You can often gain the privilege of being …
I want to talk today about the length of time it can take to make changes when you’re first learning how to use connected parenting strategies–especially if you grew up in an authoritarian household, or you had a lot of disconnection or maybe trauma in your family background. Maybe you look around sometimes and compare …
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