Do Rewards Change Behavior in Sensitive Spirited Kids?

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Do rewards change behavior in sensitive spirited kids? Not usually, or not for long. And here’s why. I often hear from parents, “Rewards worked for a while, and then they stopped working.” Parents are often understandably at their wit’s end when that happens. If even one of your children is dysregulated, that can contribute to …

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A Little More Irritable Over the Holidays? Here’s Some Inspiration

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A little more irritable over the holidays?  Today I have a short note that I hope inspires you, especially if you find that the holiday season tries your patience. (You’ll need to read right to the end for the inspiration). It’s a busy time of year for many, and a time when parents sometimes have …

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Peaceful Parenting: Truths and Misconceptions

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Like many parents, having a child was life changing for me, and I aspired to use a peaceful parenting approach. I felt deeply blessed and wanted to honor that by connecting with my child and preventing emotionally wounding him. I had my own childhood wounds, and I was determined to have a close relationship with …

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What to Say to Your Kids to Build Empathy and Confidence

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Many of the words that were considered acceptable for describing kids’ behavior in the 1970s and ’80s are now recognized as judgmental or damaging to self-esteem. They teach our kids to be hard on themselves and cause anxiety rather than confidence.  If we want to raise empathetic kids who remain open-hearted, we need to be …

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Feel Confident in Your Connected Parenting–Even when your child is misbehaving

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If you’re wondering if you’re failing because your child’s behavior isn’t what you’ve been aiming for, and you’ve been learning to use a connected parenting approach but you think maybe it’s not “working”–how can you feel confident in your connected parenting and know that you’re doing a good job? And how can you feel reassured …

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Stop Forcing Your Child to Say Sorry, and What To Do Instead

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Parents often try to teach their kids to say “sorry” by insisting they say it, but forcing your child to say sorry never teaches genuine remorse or regret–especially if your child is upset and doesn’t want to. Parents who take this approach may: I get it! And I agree that it’s important for kids to …

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Am I a Bad Parent? How to Let Go of Parenting Guilt

Parents who are committed to being the best parent they can be are often also hard on themselves and find it difficult to let go of parenting guilt. However, self-judgment or guilt never help us to be our best. Here’s a different approach to take in your parenting practice that can help you become the …

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