Teaching Your Child Authentic Respect

Is authentic respect from your child “deserved” or “earned”? (And by “authentic” respect, I mean respect that they offer genuinely, without being asked.) I believe that it’s neither deserved or earned, and that both of those beliefs can get in the way of teaching your child authentic respect. Many parents feel (understandably) upset when their …

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Your Child’s Ability to Behave is Reliant on Their Ability to Regulate Emotions

your child's ability to behave is reliant on their ability to regulate emotions

Sometimes we lament: “I’ve told my child a hundred times? Why don’t they learn?” The problem usually lies with an old outdated belief that we’re completely unaware of. Outdated (false) belief:   Once you’ve “taught” your child appropriate behaviour by telling them what they should do, they now “know” it and can use the information …

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Helping My Sensitive Child Connect with the Teacher

sensitive child connect with the teacher

When my son was young, I started the school year every year with a letter to the teacher. The intention was for helping my sensitive child connect with the teacher early on, plus ensure that he’d have the support he needed for any challenges. In hindsight, I think it helped even more than I realized …

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My Teen Won’t Listen to Me: What Can I Do?

When your teen won’t listen, anxiety can skyrocket. Just when your teen gets to the age where they decide to take more risks –they’re also reluctant to listen. And the reality is, they often find ways to do what they want regardless of what you say. However– You can often gain the privilege of being …

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Teaching Boundaries is Essential for Your Child’s Safety

(Recovering) perfectionist parents may have difficulty teaching their kids to set boundaries because of their own tendency to people-please. But teaching boundaries is essential for your child’s safety, so that they gain the confidence to say, “No”. An important strategy you can use, starting when your child is very young, is to say “no” on …

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Learning Connected Parenting: How Long Does It Take?

I want to talk today about the length of time it can take to make changes when you’re first learning how to use connected parenting strategies–especially if you grew up in an authoritarian household, or you had a lot of disconnection or maybe trauma in your family background.  Maybe you look around sometimes and compare …

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Raising a Child Who Marches to the Beat of Their Own Drum

Colleen Adrian

When you raise your sensitive, spirited child to march to the beat of their own drum, be prepared that their drum rhythm will likely sometimes stretch you to outside of your comfort zone (and maybe even cause you anxiety). I’ve had glimpses of this experience throughout raising my son, but the waves of anxiety got …

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Help, I Yelled! Have I Done Irreparable Damage?

Some of my most despairing parenting moments have been when I yelled, blamed, or criticized my son, and then felt like a complete failure when his face fell, or his shoulders slumped as he realized he didn’t live up to my expectations. I felt crushed, thinking that I might have done irreparable damage. It’s painful …

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