It’s distressing when your child is hard on themselves or is reluctant to try a new activity because they’re worried they can’t do it even before trying. We want our kids to be accepting of themselves, and to “cut themselves some slack” when they feel they’ve fallen short. We also want them to have the …
Sometimes we lament: “I’ve told my child a hundred times? Why don’t they learn?” The problem usually lies with an old outdated belief that we’re completely unaware of. Outdated (false) belief: Once you’ve “taught” your child appropriate behaviour by telling them what they should do, they now “know” it and can use the information …
I want to talk today about the length of time it can take to make changes when you’re first learning how to use connected parenting strategies–especially if you grew up in an authoritarian household, or you had a lot of disconnection or maybe trauma in your family background. Maybe you look around sometimes and compare …
If your child or teen’s behaviour is unusual or more difficult recently as school is starting, instead of worrying about their behaviour, look for how the structures that usually keep them feeling safe have been disrupted. The new school year can be fraught with anxiety-producing situations for all kids, especially our sensitive kids. But this …
I gratefully acknowledge that I live and work on the traditional territories of the Coast Salish people.
