I’m re-reading The Hobbit by J.R.R. Tolkien, and I’m thoroughly enjoying the story, but I’m also thinking about the hero’s journey as I read about Bilbo‘s occasional longing to go back to his hobbit hole and the comforts of his home that are so well known to him. And it’s reminding me of my own …
It’s normal to feel guilty after yelling at your child or losing your patience with them. That’s because you have a conscience and want to do right by your kids. But it’s also normal to lose patience and yell sometimes–because you’re human! It’s “human” and “real”. And what I mean by that is that all …
Parents often want to know how they can raise a confident child who has a healthy self-esteem and self-worth, and prevent toxic shame. For instance, “When my child makes a mistake, how can I help them stay self-confident rather than feeling ashamed? How can I ensure they’re feeling *guilt* rather than *shame*–so that I can …
If you’re wondering if you’re failing because your child’s behavior isn’t what you’ve been aiming for, and you’ve been learning to use a connected parenting approach but you think maybe it’s not “working”–how can you feel confident in your connected parenting and know that you’re doing a good job? And how can you feel reassured …
Parents often try to teach their kids to say “sorry” by insisting they say it, but forcing your child to say sorry never teaches genuine remorse or regret–especially if your child is upset and doesn’t want to. Parents who take this approach may: I get it! And I agree that it’s important for kids to …
The holiday season brings mixed feelings for many, especially Moms who often carry the brunt of the workload for creating a wonderful or magical experience for others. I thought I’d share a few things that I’m either doing this Christmas, or have done over the years, to create a little less stress and more connection …
Parents who are committed to being the best parent they can be are often also hard on themselves and find it difficult to let go of parenting guilt. However, self-judgment or guilt never help us to be our best. Here’s a different approach to take in your parenting practice that can help you become the …
Parents of sensitive spirited kids who want to avoid undermining your parenting partner—As you’re learning to use a connected parenting approach, but maybe your co-parent or partner wants to focus more on behavior or rewards/consequences and feels undermined when you use a connecting approach ➡️ I’ve got connected strategies for you! ✨✨❣️❣️ 🔥 Here are …
One of the most regulating and affirming practices we can offer our child is to “see them and hear them”. It can build your child’s self-confidence and also calm them. Here’s why many parents struggle with this. We’re most capable of seeing and hearing our child when we have our own need to be seen …
Shame is one of the most painful human feelings, and it tends to be passed from generation to generation. As a parent, the last thing you want is for your child experience the same shame pain you’ve experienced, so you want to know how to break the cycle of shame with your child. Your child’s …
I gratefully acknowledge that I live and work on the traditional territories of the Coast Salish people.
